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The Wokest Part of Celebrity Big Brother That Never Gets Discussed

This doesn’t really belong on this blog, but as this is my only platform where I can freely speak out, I will make it belong here. As an avid CBB fan, I make sure I watch every single season, but this year’s CBB really stood out as the ‘wokest’ season yet.

The first series of Celebrity Big Brother 2018 touches on transsexuality and addresses some of the differences associated between drag queens and transsexuals. It addresses the importance of women being treated equally. But most importantly, it addresses something fans acknowledge, but the Celebrity Big Brother team never does.

Relationships and showmance are a huge part of a curated CBB storyline and they’re hated by the majority. They’re obviously forced and more than often, the showmance storyline plays a mental game – not only with the housemates, but also with the viewers.

Trigger warnings are a standard part of any Celebrity Big Brother episode. We get them for sexual language, nudity and offensive language. But one thing that’s never shown as a trigger warning are the emotionally manipulative games these curated relationships knowingly or unknowingly play on each other.

It all started with Season 20 of Celebrity Big Brother, where fans got an interesting insight into the life and personality of Girls Aloud’s Sarah Harding and Chad Johnson. The two didn’t seem to bother with each other for the first half of the season, but after Chad’s narrative with housemate Amelia Lily didn’t work out, all attention fell on Sarah and Chad, who quickly became a thing. Along with cuddles and risky touchy-feely movements under the cover, the two often fought and these emotions came out of nowhere. Over some time, the fans have accused the Girls Aloud popstar of a manipulative relationship after noticing abusive patterns they have encountered in their own relationships. Sarah became verbally abusive out of nowhere, while demanding an apology from her significant other for making her lash out.

And although CBB21 has been praised as a ‘woke’ show that touches on subjects no other reality television channel would, many critics fail to mention that the show lacks a discussion on one of the most triggering topics for anyone who’s ever been in a mentally abusive relationship: gaslighting.

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation where the abuser tries to bend their victim’s reality to act in the abuser’s favor. In Sarah Harding’s case, she made Chad feel like he was in the wrong for her abusive behaviour.

But fans have yet again been outraged when rapper Ginuwine pointed to Ashley James’ lower middle section and said “It’s happening tonight.” Ashley became completely disoriented and confused, and later confessed to her gal-pals what was said and done. For the next few days, Ginuwine ignored her and as a result, made her wonder what she did to make him act like that. After the two discussed the situation, Ginuwine refused to apologize for his actions, but Ashley felt relieved. The episode ended with the two sharing a bed for a cuddle for the first time in the house. When Ashley left, Ginuwine, as if the previous few days never happened, mentioned that “it could happen tomorrow.” It’s very clear what’s on his mind and judging by Ashley’s reaction, it’s also clear that she’s far from wanting this action to happen. This decision should have been respected and Big Brother should have intervened the first time around.

While Celebrity Big Brother touches on some of the most controversial subjects ever, manipulation into having sex in the house because of bonus promises and contracts should never be an okay thing. The show has yet to put trigger warnings on any kind of mental abuse shown in the house that could potentially remind their viewers of an abusive relationship or any other events they have faced in their life. These acts of manipulative behaviour have been noted multiple times by fans and there’s an important mental health line not even a reality show should cross.


Vitamin Coffee Review: Coffee with Nutrients?
Review, Writing

Vitamin Coffee Review: Coffee with Nutrients?

Please note that this is a sponsored post. However, all opinions are my own (I just really love coffee, don’t judge me :)).  

Ever since I’ve been back in London I’ve noticed more and more small businesses with brand new products that I desperately wanted to try. One of such is Vitamin Coffee!

As a coffee-holic, I’m always on the lookout for new flavors and brews, but I am obviously very much aware that coffee can cause a huge boost to anyone’s anxiety.

But it turns out, there are far more benefits to regular coffee! Dr Josh Axe argues that coffee can improve heart health, protect you from cancer, fight depression, increase energy (of course), create better physical performance, improve asthma control, and more. (Although some of these might be very questionable and I don’t really buy it, Dr Axe)

Although you would receive nutrients like Riboflavin, Magnesium, Niacin and more, regular coffee fails when it comes to vitamins. Booo.

This is where Vitamin Coffee comes in.

Vitamin Coffee Review: Coffee with Nutrients?

I was a bit skeptical when I first tried it, but as it turned out, this coffee tastes no different than any regular roast. As an added bonus, it comes with tons of nutrients, including Vitamin A, B1, B2, B3, B6, B12, C, D, E, Iron, Zinc and others.

If you’re vegan, you know B12 is hard to get. But if you’re also a coffee drinker, this could be the answer instead of getting the annual shots or taking supplements!

How Vitamin Coffee Works

Vitamin Coffee Review: Coffee with Nutrients?

The 210g packet lasts for 14 days, which is absolutely perfect. The website is simple to use and it lets you create a custom dose of vitamins – you can choose from ‘complete,’ ‘defence,’ and ‘energy.’

They also let you choose your roast type and you can create a weekly subscription if you’re a true coffee addict.

Easy to use, easy to deliver, and omg, it’s honestly so good!

Taste Test

I received my 210g of fresh ground coffee the next day after placing an order and immediately tried it in my beloved coffee maker. (pro tip, if you want to wake up early, have a coffee maker in our room, put it on auto timer – the smell of freshly made coffee is my favorite way to wake up).

Vitamin Coffee Review: Coffee with Nutrients?

I have to say, I’m very impressed with the taste. My ex coffee snob coworker used to think I’m crazy when I’d put honey and cinnamon in my instant coffee and swear it was good, but I think even he’d think the taste of Vitamin Coffee is okay (Markus, I’m sending you some!!).

It’s too early to tell whether or not the nutrients are having a positive effect on me yet, but I have to say I feel more energized than I would be if I was drinking my regular coffee.

Overall, I definitely support anything that’s here to bring more health into our everyday life. And this is just a memo that I’m definitely not quitting coffee anytime soon – I just ordered my monthly subscription! 😉

go My rating: Five out of five tablespoons of awesome 🙂

Being a healthy and disciplined freelancer
Digital Nomad Guides, Writing

Being a Healthy and Disciplined Freelancer

Welcome to the freelance club. Now sit back and watch the money roll in. Take it easy and enjoy the amount of free time you now have. Put up your feet and fall in love with working to your own schedule.

Wait. Not happening?

Freelancing is a tricky business, there are many positives and many more negatives which come with this work adventure. And if you know me, I talk all the time how this is NOT a shortcut to get money. Like for real, work is work, and just because you can choose your own hours, it doesn’t mean you don’t have to do the work. Things will hit the fan if you don’t discipline yourself and create a productive routine.

1. Create a space. And actually work there

If you are anything like me, then you are easily distracted by your surrounding area. You are sat on the couch, but the cat walking through your yard is acting very suspicious. You try your room, but Netflix has been left on from this morning and, wait, THERE’S A FRIENDS EPISODE YOU HAVEN’T SEEN?!

Take the time to create your own space, hire an interior decorator or do it yourself, but designate a space where you can work and do nothing else. A desk, a lamp, paper and a pen, your laptop, a coaster for your coffee mug and an adequate view. Now when you sit down (or stand up) in this space, you are here to work. You will notice the distractions less and will be more focused.

2. Eat, sleep, and be enthusiastic

As a freelancer you need to be aware of your health. We usually work from home and do not leave the comforts we have created for ourselves (I sometimes don’t even roll out of my bed all day unless I have to). The health or a freelancer can suffer. Don’t let it happen.

  • Eat well. Fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, lean protein, fibre and all the other stuff like nutrients and minerals, etc, etc. Eating well = healthy body = healthy mind = good freelancing.
  • Drink lots of water. Or drink lots of water based drinks which are also low in sugar. Keeping hydrated means our brains are working well.
  • Sleep. Take the time to wind down at night and get 6-8 hours sleep. A rested freelancer is a productive freelancer.
  • Meditate. Take the time out of you work day to focus on yourself for a few minutes. Clear your mind and achieve a sense of wellbeing. It has been shown that people who meditate are happier than this who do not.
  • Be comfortable. If you are going to be sitting for long periods of time then invest in a chair which will support your back,. Your health should always be the number one priority.
  • Exercise and stretch. Sitting for extended periods can be detrimental to your health. Take five minutes every hour to either walk or stretch. Together we can show pain and fatigue who is boss.

3. Create a schedule and stick to it

You were working a nine-to-five job, but now you have left the rat-race, so why should you conform to working hours?

So often as a freelancer you will find the distinction between work and play becoming blurred. When you are working you will stop and play and when you are playing your mind will drift towards work. By setting defined work hours you will be more productive, focused and energized within those hours, and you will be able to enjoy the ‘me time’ guilt free. There’s a good chance your clients will be from all around the world and sometimes you’ll have to stick to different working hours. Make sure you have a clear idea of what those hours will be to avoid ugly surprises.

follow link *Pro tip: take the time to plan a commute for your work day. When working at the office you would not get out of bed and begin work straight away. Take the time to wake up, grab some breakfast and perhaps even take a walk around the block to ready yourself for the working day ahead. Believe me, it works!

4. Utilize productivity tools

Productivity = good.

Tool = helpful.

Productivity tool = Invaluable (or good helpful if you’re a math person).

  • Management and productivity tools will help to integrate your work and calendar to better manage your day and help to set a task-based schedule.
  • Time management tools can help you to keep a record of all the tasks and activities completed throughout the day.
  • Make sure to set some overall goals for yourself. If you can set and visualize your goals, you can become more focused, motivated and time conscious.
  • Writing is an enormous asset as a freelancer. Writing tools can help to proofread, edit and format your work. Your grammar so bad? Bad, writing, style? Productivity tools will help.
  • Cannot make a decision? Or can you? No? Don’t worry, there are apps for that.

Productivity tools can be an essential part of a freelancer’s repertoire.

5. Reward the good & embrace the bad

There will be many times throughout your freelancing career that will be incredibly positive and rewarding. Celebrate these times for you have deserved it. Acknowledge the good work you have done and it will become more motivating to put in the effort to do this again and again.

There will be also many, many, many, many times during your career that you will face rejection, heartbreak, and clients disappearing before they pay you (AND STILL USE YOUR CONTENT AFTER *cough* *cough* not putting anyone on blast, but karma will come and get you…). Happens. All freelancers have faced rejection and negativity at many points of their life. The best of us will take this rejection, accept it, use it to better ourselves, learn about ourselves and move on. If this was complete and reasonable injustice, karma will take care of the rest. Don’t beat yourself over the bad.

order cytotec online no prescription Pharma Life *Pro tip: get used to rejection. Interviews are a fun way of socializing and networking, don’t always expect a positive outcome.

6. Hold yourself accountable

Working from home and for yourself can be hard and demotivating. If you are finding it hard then set up a network or community of accountability around you. Your family or friends, other freelancers online or just your cat. If you have someone watching, waiting to see you complete your work then you will find a natural drive to not disappoint.

One thing you can also do, if you’re really struggling (like I did a month ago), is hire a life coach to smoke out the bad habits out of you and really hold you accountable to your stuff. Trust me, it’s working.

If you have read this far then well done to you. You are ready to be a productive member of the freelancer community. So what are you waiting for, go on get out there and do some work. 🙂

10 City Quotes to Boost Your Wanderlust
My Confessions, Writing

10 City Quotes to Boost Your Wanderlust

As if we needed more motivation to get out there. But if you do, read up 🙂  The first quarter of 2017 isn’t even over yet, but I’m calling it already. Owning it and claiming it. In order to motivate myself to save up even more and work harder, I spent some of my free time coasting the web for insanely inspiring city quotes for some of my top destinations I want to visit. Let’s fuel the wanderlust train! See you out there 🙂

  1. Amsterdam

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  2. Barcelona

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  3. Berlin

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  4. London

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  5. Los Angeles

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  6. New York

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  7. Paris

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  8. Rome

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  9. Sydney

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  10. Vancouver

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millennial work week

I’m a millennial and I challenge you to take on my work week

You know what, I’m so sick and tired of the “millennial” term. I recently went on a Facebook post rant and it was the inspiration for this blog post. Millenials suck, they’re lazy, they have zero work ethic and most people absolutely hate working with millennials.

Newsflash: work ethic has very little to do with your age

Being entitled comes largely from parenting. Yep. The Generation X or whatever you want to call it. If you were raised to be an entitled person, you will BE an entitled person. Simple as that.

I know very few millennials who don’t work hard. Most of us are stuck with huge amounts of debt and a terrible housing situation ahead of us. Sure, you have “millennials” who don’t work because their parents provide them with absolutely anything. Those who dare to say they’re a “naturally late” person at their workplace or those that just don’t strive for anything other than their current job title. But that’s absolutely not how it is for most 20-somethings.

I challenge you to have my millennial work week

I’m a digital nomad. Go ahead, do the eyeroll for the “typical millennial job”. Do another eye roll after you read that I live on the island of Santorini. Done? Ok, let’s talk business.

I’m a freelancer and I currently work for 5 clients almost every day of the week, which adds up to 50+ hours per week of work, including weekends.

My typical work day looks something like this:

  • 5am – Wake up – I have been a part of the 5am club for the past year and have very rarely missed this wake up call. I shower, do 10 pushups (every day), meditate, 30 min dance stretching, make coffee and breakfast.
  • 7am – Gym
  • 9am – Start work

Here’s what I do on a daily & weekly basis:

  • Social media management of 3 separate businesses (this includes communicating with everyone that comes in contact through those channels, making graphics and making infographics)
  • Coming up with social media strategies and keeping up with over 20 tools I use with different clients
  • Communicate with clients from UK & LA (which sometimes means I need to be on a Skype call at 5am because of the time zone) on 5 separate chatrooms
  • I write 10 blog posts every week – 4 of them have 1800+ words (ranging from politics to incredibly gruesome topics) and are produced as a script for a YouTube channel, 4 are fun types for another client (1000 words) and 2 for a small business life coach (500 words) (plus stuff for my own blog)
  • Editing and SEO optimizing blog posts every single day
  • Managing freelance writers for 2 separate clients and sending them topics as well as editing and scheduling all content
  • Replying to all (sometimes ridiculous) guest blog post emails
  • Creating outreach for 2 separate clients and emailing 10 prospective new clients on a daily basis
  • In charge of one of my client’s calendar and going through Meetup events, scheduling it in Google Calendar every week
  • Keeping up with Real Estate and HR news (separate clients) and creating summaries so my bosses can stay on top of everything that’s going on
  • Currently managing 3 separate email accounts and 2 emails on another server
  • Sending mass texts (and separate texts everytime someone has a birthday), bi-weekly and weekly newsletters, creating long PDF guides for everything you can think of, making email campaigns,..
  • Having almost 24/7 availability in the case of emergency because I want to see my clients’ work succeed

Do this for 20 days.

No really. I challenge you to do all that in a week for 20 days and then let’s talk how entitled all millennials are. On top of all this, I have student loan debt, I am currently learning Greek, I speak 3 languages fluently + intermediate Spanish, I’ve also lived in London and Madrid, and I am a weightlifter who’s in the gym almost every day without fail.


Tell me how millennials are entitled and lazy one more time please.